Comments on: WHEN LIFE BECOMES PROBLEMATIC http://benafia.wordpress.com/2008/02/07/when-life-becomes-problematic/ An exploration of Life's Spirit; an optimistic spiritual view Sun, 03 Jan 2010 15:56:39 +0000 http://wordpress.com/ hourly 1 By: SallY http://benafia.wordpress.com/2008/02/07/when-life-becomes-problematic/#comment-61 SallY Sat, 09 Feb 2008 00:08:53 +0000 http://benafia.wordpress.com/?p=141#comment-61 Wow i found someone who can talk more than me. I appreciate what you had to say. I could really "hear" you when you were speaking of the child hood to growing older. I have to say that no one seems to care about those things when we get older and are in the Doctors office and i don't understand why? They don't ask us did you have ANYTHING happen to you when you were younger and i don't mean SEXUAL ABUSE!! I mean they act as though we were invincible yet they then tell us all the time that "kids think they are invincible.. stupid kids!" I can remember hitting my head hard on a cement slab in the backyard. I can remember falling hard on my back and doing more than just knocking the wind out of me. I remember snapping my neck on a ride at Knots Berry Farm going backwards. I remember having some sort of neurological thing when i was a child that i cannot explain to this day where i would see what i call a "rock" in my head. Possibly they were some sort of small seizures. Interruptions of the neurotransmitters. My daughter is now 13 and i just found out she is autistic. I hear all sort of crap on the TV about everyone's theories. But you know people just don't want to LISTEN or ASK about SIMPLE TRUTHS of the M A T T E R. I could have told them lots of things which i did from when she was first born and about the interruption of the Fetus when she was inside of me and at 5 months and then at birth. You mention these athletes. My father was an experimental athlete. HE had his children that is ME working out at 8 years old and up. We were on USS swimming and then using weights and doing Triathlons and other workout routines in the living room. I mean where do you draw the line. We were taking vitamins and eating the healthiest food you can think of. Guess what??? WE ARE ALL SCREWED UP NOW! I was diagnosed bipolar. He is an alcoholic but oh so fit so he will never die. Grandma died of a stroke. Sister is Sociopath. The other one is Pathological. I luckily am on the other side of the continent and making it out and escaped and now down from 25 medications to 4. In my opinion athletes are the same as drug addicts. IT is relatively the same premise. I have seen children who are star players and i was one too who go through their lives and then some who don't "make it" because that was all they had to live for.. end up not knowing where to turn later in life. There is nothing to grasp for. WE feed the kids athletics as and outlet and then toss them out into the world. Well athletics AINT CHEAP and later on it wears on you. Yes LIFE KIDS LIFE. the REAL WORLD. WE cannot all be SPORTS STARS. That is the unfortunate truth of the matter. When circumstance rears its ugly ugly head.... It might be that little "surprise" you were talking about that happened. Or the MANY that happened to me. Like SURPRISE you've got a gallstone and that means a surgery!! SURPRISE you've got a kidney stone now right after and that means ANOTHER SURGERY!! SURPRISE!! You now have ENDOMETRIOSIS!! ANOTHER SURGERY!! OOps i tripped and wow i broke my knee and the doc screwed up. OH but that is okay we here about the glory cancer surviver stories all the time in the news and just think that is the FACTS OF THE MATTER. WE here about the beginning middle and ends. But we aren't there for the ENTIRE THING. People can toss around the word ENDURE all they want to but to truly go THROUGH IT??? Puh! IT is NOT FUN AND GAMES . I mean this whole notion of " if you had to go through it all again would you?" What a bunch of crap! Of course the answer is always.. well of course i am such a better person now for it.. yeada yeada boo boo. So what you'd like to teach the world to sing in perfect harmony??? Why don't you ask them the real question? Would you like your worst enemy to ENDURE??? Would you like your worst enemy to go through this crap shoot? To me it is simple.. it is called TRUTH and it is something that people are not willing to FACE OR TELL. They want to pretend that what they have or has happened never did. Problems must be faced head on. And for myself going through this crisis that happened this past SEptember i finally had to FACE the grieving process and that took Truth but damnit if anyone around me was willing to help. Instead people run and then you see alot of lip gloss. Well i am sorry but i am tired of a LIP GLOSS WORLD!! Lets get down to business here. HOUSTON WE GOT A PROBLEM!! Wow i found someone who can talk more than me. I appreciate what you had to say. I could really “hear” you when you were speaking of the child hood to growing older. I have to say that no one seems to care about those things when we get older and are in the Doctors office and i don’t understand why? They don’t ask us did you have ANYTHING happen to you when you were younger and i don’t mean SEXUAL ABUSE!! I mean they act as though we were invincible yet they then tell us all the time that “kids think they are invincible.. stupid kids!” I can remember hitting my head hard on a cement slab in the backyard. I can remember falling hard on my back and doing more than just knocking the wind out of me. I remember snapping my neck on a ride at Knots Berry Farm going backwards. I remember having some sort of neurological thing when i was a child that i cannot explain to this day where i would see what i call a “rock” in my head. Possibly they were some sort of small seizures. Interruptions of the neurotransmitters. My daughter is now 13 and i just found out she is autistic. I hear all sort of crap on the TV about everyone’s theories. But you know people just don’t want to LISTEN or ASK about SIMPLE TRUTHS of the M A T T E R.
I could have told them lots of things which i did from when she was first born and about the interruption of the Fetus when she was inside of me and at 5 months and then at birth.

You mention these athletes. My father was an experimental athlete. HE had his children that is ME working out at 8 years old and up. We were on USS swimming and then using weights and doing Triathlons and other workout routines in the living room. I mean where do you draw the line. We were taking vitamins and eating the healthiest food you can think of. Guess what??? WE ARE ALL SCREWED UP NOW! I was diagnosed bipolar. He is an alcoholic but oh so fit so he will never die. Grandma died of a stroke. Sister is Sociopath. The other one is Pathological. I luckily am on the other side of the continent and making it out and escaped and now down from 25 medications to 4. In my opinion athletes are the same as drug addicts. IT is relatively the same premise. I have seen children who are star players and i was one too who go through their lives and then some who don’t “make it” because that was all they had to live for.. end up not knowing where to turn later in life. There is nothing to grasp for. WE feed the kids athletics as and outlet and then toss them out into the world. Well athletics AINT CHEAP and later on it wears on you. Yes LIFE KIDS LIFE. the REAL WORLD. WE cannot all be SPORTS STARS. That is the unfortunate truth of the matter.
When circumstance rears its ugly ugly head….

It might be that little “surprise” you were talking about that happened. Or the MANY that happened to me. Like SURPRISE you’ve got a gallstone and that means a surgery!! SURPRISE you’ve got a kidney stone now right after and that means ANOTHER SURGERY!! SURPRISE!! You now have ENDOMETRIOSIS!! ANOTHER SURGERY!! OOps i tripped and wow i broke my knee and the doc screwed up. OH but that is okay we here about the glory cancer surviver stories all the time in the news and just think that is the FACTS OF THE MATTER. WE here about the beginning middle and ends. But we aren’t there for the ENTIRE THING. People can toss around the word ENDURE all they want to but to truly go THROUGH IT??? Puh! IT is NOT FUN AND GAMES .
I mean this whole notion of ” if you had to go through it all again would you?” What a bunch of crap! Of course the answer is always.. well of course i am such a better person now for it.. yeada yeada boo boo. So what you’d like to teach the world to sing in perfect harmony??? Why don’t you ask them the real question? Would you like your worst enemy to ENDURE???
Would you like your worst enemy to go through this crap shoot?
To me it is simple.. it is called TRUTH and it is something that people are not willing to FACE OR TELL. They want to pretend that what they have or has happened never did.

Problems must be faced head on. And for myself going through this crisis that happened this past SEptember i finally had to FACE the grieving process and that took Truth but damnit if anyone around me was willing to help. Instead people run and then you see alot of lip gloss. Well i am sorry but i am tired of a LIP GLOSS WORLD!! Lets get down to business here.
HOUSTON WE GOT A PROBLEM!!

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